I have experienced this, and after years of research, doctors, and drugs, I have formed my own opinion about what causes this to happen.
Although I am not a doctor, and there are certainly exceptions to the rule, I firmly believe that if you can address these few issues, you can make a serious positive impact in this part of your life. It has worked for me, and hundreds of other women that I have helped solve this problem.
1. In a women's mind, sex and money are connected. I know it sounds crazy, but I believe that when a woman is stressed out about money or finances, she can never truly let her inhibitions go and enjoy sex as it is meant to be enjoyed.
If you are a man reading this, and you want to help the special lady in your life, do whatever you can to take her mind off of money the day of your romantic encounter. Start in the morning by telling her you are going to treat her to a special night out, and money is no object. Mid-day, tell her that you are so optimistic with the financial progress she is making, and that she is so much smarter about money than most people... Or whatever fits the situation.
The point is, put a positive spin on what might be a stressful financial situation, and she will be more likely to open up sexually and allow herself to be "turned on."
2. Next, for a women, sex starts in her brain. Are you seeing the reoccurring theme here? For men, it is much simpler (no offense). He can see a pretty lady walk by, and that is all it takes. A woman is much more complex. She needs to "work up" to feeling sexy and free in her mind, and only then will she feel sexy and free in the bedroom.
There are many ways to accomplish this, but again, these things need to happen throughout the day, not just thirty minutes before sex. Besides the obvious things you can do like writing her romantic notes and sending sexy emails, another very effective way to guide her in this direction is through what I refer to as "sexy stories".
Stories are great because they allow a woman to have a mental fantasy and slowly arrive at a place where she, herself, craves sex. Again, this is different from a man who probably wouldn't be interested in taking the time to read something like this, but for a woman, it is all about flipping the mental switch.
These sexy stories can be found online. My website below is also a place to find this material. Keep in mind; I said sexy stories, not XXX porn. There is a big difference. We are going for sexy here, not raunchy. You want her to be turned on, not turned off.
3. Last but not least, I believe that as we get a little older, we need a little help in the area of stimulation. If the special lady in your life is 35 years old or older, she knows that sometimes it takes a little more than what it took ten years ago to get her fire lit.
This is something that isn't talked about a lot because mentioning this to a man can make him feel inadequate and incapable. When, in fact, it has nothing to do with that! Women aged 35 or older are crazy busy, stretched thin between work and family, and they are always juggling a zillion things at once. Even when they are sitting on the couch in the evenings, their minds are still going a million miles an hour planning the next day, mentally preparing their to-do list, etc...
When we were 25, it was a much easier life. We were more footloose and fancy-free. So, when we reach a certain age, we sometimes need a device designed to get our physical juices flowing to encourage us to go there. If it can happen physically, it will happen mentally, and vice versa. I think every woman in her 30s and above needs a very discreet, small, effective vibrator. It works every time to get started, and then she will be ready for more from you. If she is embarrassed to talk about this, perhaps giving her one as a gift, that she can use privately, would be a good place to begin.
The main point I want to convey in this article is that as women, we have more control over our sex drive than we sometimes realize. It is very typical to think, "Well, something is wrong, I need a doctor," when many times, like with other things in our lives, with a little determination and open-mindedness, we can fix 99% of it ourselves.
Think about this, haven't you been able to accomplish anything you've ever put your mind to? Of course you have. This is no different. Education is so much more effective than drugs in this area. Our bodies and minds are magical places, and once you learn how to use that to your advantage, the sky is the limit!
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