I have to say most of my articles are written from the perspective of the person being left and might not suit the person leaving.
But read on even if you are the person leaving, I wouldn't waste an hour without writing something worthwhile.
This might be a good email to send a friend going through this difficult time.
Now let's get to the nine good things.
The first: At least you had one love.
If you have lost the love of your life at least you have had one! Some people are so ugly or have so many disadvantages that they never marry.
Why I know a few wonderful ladies in their thirties that have never been married.
If you have had a love of your life well you can be glad about that! The second: At least you know what making love is.
Sex sex sex.
The whole world wants to talk sex sex sex.
It's all about how good you are in bed, how fit and tanned and wealthy you are.
And did you know, it's all about sex.
Once it was a forbidden subject at the dinner table, now it's frequently talked about at the dinner table.
Many people are in relationships that are only sex.
They are in lust.
If you clicked through to read this, you at once had a love of your life and so you most definitely have made love and that is something great you can remember.
The third: At least you can fall in love.
Some people can never find a person that they can love.
And you have already found a person that you have loved.
That has to be a good thing.
Even better that you should pray for them and romance them and see if you can win them back.
The fourth: You know what it is like to be held close in bed.
Not being dirty but some of the best times I had in bed with my former wife was just holding her close as she lit up a smoke after we had made love.
It's a nice thing to be naked in bed with your wife or husband and to be warm on a cold night.
Jesus is a great partner but He does not often come to bed and keep you warm like a partner.
Some people have never felt that intimate touch and of holding each other.
The fifth and most important: Losing your partner is like how Jesus feels about losing people to hell.
Jesus was often asked if He was going to marry on earth.
He never did as He said that His bride was going to be the people who had their faith in Him, pledge their life to Him and obey Him like they would a husband.
Many single women in Israel would have loved to marry Jesus, not one of them did.
But He died on a cross to pay for the sins of the whole world and He still has His arms out beckoning you for an embrace.
Losing the love of your life is just like Him losing your best friend to hell one day if they do not know Jesus personally.
If you know the pain of loss of a loved one, you know the tears in Jesus' eyes when He cried.
"Father forgive them, they know not what they do.
" Are you lost? Have you come to this point in life without a personal relationship with Jesus Christ? I want to get serious with you before we get to the last four points.
Why not consider these scriptures in any New Testament of the Bible.
Read the scriptures out aloud and write down your answers on a pad! Print out this article and take the time to read the scriptures out aloud to yourself.
It's like you are taking a test here in English and even if you don't know the Bible you can answer the questions.
You can show a Christian friend the answers in the future or send them to me in an email.
Okay now get ready.
Read aloud and then answer the questions.
Romans 3:23 23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, So what does this verse say to you? Romans 6:23 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
So what does this verse say to you? John 3:3 3 In reply Jesus declared, "I tell you the truth, no one can see the kingdom of God unless he is born again Why did Jesus come to die? John 14:6 6 Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life.
No one comes to the Father except through me.
What does this say to you? Romans 10:9-11 9That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
10For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved.
11As the Scripture says, "Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame.
" What does this say to you? 2 Corinthians 5:15 15 And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.
What does this say to you? Revelation 3:20 20Here I am! I stand at the door and knock.
If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me.
What does this say to you? Take the time to print this article off and answer the questions.
Are you ready to invite Jesus into your heart? You've lost a loved one and you wish they were with you and everything was okay and things could be as good as when you were married.
Jesus can heal a broken heart, but first of all He wants to come into your heart.
Won't you invite Him in? Do you know a born again Christian that prays for you? Of course you do.
If you are not a Christian and these scriptures have shown you a need in your life for Jesus why don't you ring your friend and ask them how to give your life to Jesus? They would be more then happy to pray for you.
If you want to pray now and accept Jesus and invite Him into your life you can pray this prayer from your heart.
"Heavenly Father, I have sinned against you.
I want forgiveness for all my sins.
I believe that Jesus died on the cross for me and rose again.
Father, I give you my life to do with as you wish.
I want Jesus Christ to come into my life and into my heart.
This I ask in Jesus' name.
" If you have not got a friend that is praying for you, please write to me at my email address at my web site.
Even if you have a friend that you have prayed with please write.
If you are a Christian, a good book where I got those scriptures from is "Share Jesus without fear", By William Fay.
William has shared the Gospel message with 25,000 people one to one in coffee shops and airports and all over the place.
It is the very best book you can read and put into practice.
The sixth: You know for real now that you are worthy of love.
If you have not had a significant relationship you can never be sure that you are worthy of romantic love.
Losing the love of your life means that you had love in your life and you are worthy.
If you are worthy once you may be worthy twice hey? I don't personally believe in second marriages for born again Christians and I share that in the ten scriptures you should consider before divorce part one and two.
The seventh: You have a lot in common with up to fifty percent of adults that have had relationships.
Nearly more marriages fail than those that make a go of it.
It gives you so much in common with such a huge segment of the market.
Soon enough you can heal and join a dating site on the Internet.
(I wonder if you're laughing or taking me seriously? I have had three marriage proposals from Internet sites, LOL) The eighth: You have had a person that is close to you tell you honestly all your faults.
Parents so often do not help us iron out all our faults.
Some of them they are aware of and they never even mention them.
But if you have lost someone that you love you can be sure that they have told you.
And if they haven't, take them out to dinner and ask them if they could take the time to write a list of all your faults and you will shout them dinner in return.
You can be sure that if you do it right with the right, attitude, a dinner with your estranged spouse where you are not going to get defensive but honestly want to take a tape recorder and let them tell you all your faults and why they have left you or they can't go on with the marriage will be very beneficial to both of you.
The ninth You can learn from your mistakes.
Better to do step eight and get to know your faults and then use your breakdown to work on inner healing to address your faults, than to try and place all the blame on your spouse and not get on and get better.
Okay let me leave you with a prayer.
Dear Father, Bless this person.
Lead them to counsellors that can heal their pain and lead them into good and healthy life-giving relationships.
Give them the courage to face their formet partner and take a tape recorder and listen to the truth and adjust their life.
Lord I pray that you heal the broken marriages and you help people seek wise counsel and to always mend a broken marriage with support and counselling rather then toss it away.
I pray that you will see this message put on web-sites and emailed to people going through divorce and that many people may pass this message on to every person they know could benefit.
I ask in Jesus' name, Amen.