- Depending on what you can afford, cash gifts for Bar Mitzvahs and Bat Mitzvahs can range from $50 to $200 for attendees. It really depends on your individual financial situation and how close you are to the family. No matter how much you give to the child, consider giving a multiple of 18. The number 18, which in Hebrew is "chai," also means life and is a lucky number. The child's family's level of wealth should not be taken into account when trying to decide how much to give to the boy or girl.
- Be creative about how you give your cash gift. Select a nice Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah card and write "Mazel Tov" inside. Mazel Tov is Hebrew for "good fortune" or "congratulations." In addition, think about different ways to deliver the cash gift, be it in a book, a journal or a wallet. Hand the money to the child or the child's parents at the event or the reception following the event. It bodes well to explore the child's interests and maybe craft your gift packaging in that manner. For example, if the child likes a particular author, perhaps insert a cash gift that is a multiple of $18, into a book.
- Those having a Bar Mitzvah are encouraged to give to charity, so a charitable contribution in the child's honor is one way you can honor the boy or girl. Also keep in mind that cash gifts are often used for the child's education or the celebration, so don't just assume that if you give cash that it will be spent on an item of his or her choice.