Here are 3 common ways in which an ex girlfriend can confuse you and what might really be going on:
1. She stays friendly with you, even hanging out one on one, but only seems to do so when she wants to.
What makes a situation like this even harder to deal with is the fact that everything is happening on her terms and not yours. Add in the fact that she is probably confusing you when it is just the two of you and that makes things all the more difficult. At some point, what you really have to do is figure out whether or not she is just using you as a back up. And by that I mean, she only comes calling on you when there is nothing else for her to do. If that is the case, then you are probably wise to move on.
2. She talks about getting back together with you, but also talks about dating other people as well.
I've had guys tell me that they are in a situation like this one and you know what? I feel for them because you are bound to be confused if your ex girlfriend talks about being with you again but also talks about seeing other people. This is another one of those situations where I'd guess that she is probably relying on you as a back up, and unless you want to be the back up option, you would be better to move on with your life.
3. She doesn't know how to have boundaries after the break up.
Does your ex girlfriend still come around almost like nothing has really changed? Does she kiss you and even get physical with you but for whatever reason, she still wants to be single? This could mean that she doesn't have clear boundaries, it could mean that she really wants you back but doesn't know how to let you know or it could mean that she just wants to be friends with benefits. This is going to be a tough situation to deal with, the best thing that you can do is to figure out what YOU want and then go with it.