If your ad is up and running and you've been careful to protect your identify and privacy as we discussed previously now it's time to start communicating with your potential dates. The first thing to consider is caution and safety. You don't want to go running into this and make a huge mistake that could end terrible. take your time. As potential suitors contact you carefully review their ad. look for warning signs. Look for "crazy eyes".. Trust your instincts. If your gut says something's wrong or moving too fast it's probably right.
If you receive an email that's inappropriate quickly and politely reject that contact. Report the ad if necessary and block if the feature is available. If you are receiving any kind of unwanted attention be sure to make it clear to the person that you want the contact to stop. Do not argue, do not insult, do not engage in prolonged contact or communications. Do not make threats. If you feel unsafe be sure to document the unwanted contact by printing out the communications and make a police report.
If you find an ad that appeals to you and you feel comfortable with that person they may want to communicate off the site by exchanging emails, phone numbers or social networking accounts. Remember that there's no rush. If it's meant to be it will be, so be safe and do your homework. Before you give up any contact information get there's first.
Once you have a name, phone number, email address or social network page url it's time to investigate. The first thing you can do is run the phone number through a reverse phone number search. You can Google it and see if the number matches the name they are giving you. Then you can check out the name and see if it matches the address and if they're married or not. You can also try an online infidelity investigation. This search will trace their email address back to all their online dating sites and personal ads. You can check and see if they're giving the same story and profile information on all their personal ads. You can also see if they're only any extreme sexual fetish or homosexual web sites.
If all this checks out you might want to try a criminal background report to see if they have a record of arrests or convictions. A full background report can uncover lawsuits, liens, judgments and bankruptcies as well. These may all be factors in your decision on whether you want to date this person or not. There is no point in getting emotionally involved with someone who is not a good potential mate. You can spare yourself aa lot of future heartache by weeding out the undesirables early on . Before you every even meet them.
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