Everybody is looking for a person hoping to find love with his partner. We are looking for the right person in a club. In the bar, at parties, and in the internet dating sites. Many of us really succeeded and find love, but what happens after that?
Once we find the a partner, we still have no idea what to do with the relationship. Most of us doesn't try to go with the relationship in the next level until we miss the chance and the relationship becomes very boring. We really need to learn how to come our relationship into the real love.
A healthy relationship is the natural result of two healthy individuals. A great relationship is much like a beautiful Symphony, which is played and goes smoothly into the ears. Before we can meaningfully participate in a symphony, we must learn how to play an instrument by ourselves. Few of us are prepared to be the kind of happy and loving partner that a loving relationship requires. And that brings us to the central question: What do we all require before we can be happy as individuals? What quality must we possess individually before we can participate in a great relationship?
Unfortunately, few of us have sufficiently received or given love, not just during our marriages but for our entire lives. From the time we were small children, we observed that when we didn't fight with our sisters, didn't make too much noise in the car, got good grades, and were otherwise obedient and cooperative, our parents and others smiled at us, patted our heads, and spoke kindly. With their words and behavior, they told us what good boys and girls we were.
What happened when we got bad grades, did fight with our sisters, made much noise and our neighbors got very mad. Did people smile at us and say gentle words? Of course not. Actually the would speak in a harsh tone. Just as the positive behaviors of other people communicated to us that we were loved, the withdrawal of those behaviors could only mean that we were not being loved. unintentional, our parents and others taught us this terrible message: €When you're good, I love you, but when you're not, I don't"
This conditional love can give us brief moments of satisfaction, but we're still left with a huge hole in our souls, because only Real Love can make us genuinely happy. Without sufficient Real Love, we can only feel empty and alone, which is the greatest ongoing pain in our lives. In any given negative interaction with a relationship partner, it is the longstanding lack of Real Love in your life that determines how you feel and respond, not the behavior of your partner in that moment. In any given moment, you react to the amount of love you feel from everyone, past and present, not just from the person you're interacting with.
Let's make Love controls our lives. Life would be much easier and you will find the happiness.