During my financial and emotional research, I stumbled across the stages of grief. I was shocked; however, the more I read, the more I realized I was grieving. I was grieving the loss of my lifestyle, my confidence, my ability to make any decisions and my ability to sleep without worry.
These are the five stages of great personal loss from J.W Santrock in A Topical Approach to Life-Span Development (2007): 1) Denial -- "I feel fine."; "This can't be happening, not to me." 2) Anger -- "Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; '"Who is to blame?" 3) Bargaining -- "I'll do anything to go back in time."; "I will give anything for€¦" 4) Depression -- "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm buried in so much debt... What's the point?" This is where you begin to understand the reality of your situation. 5) Acceptance -- "It's going to be okay."; "I can't ignore it."; "I'm the only that can change my situation." You begin to come to terms with reality.
Think about your own situation. What emotions do you feel? What stage are you in?
Everyone will experience these stages differently and at different times. The importance is that you get through the stages. You need to focus on acceptance.
Accept your situation for what it is. Stop dreaming of another reality and stop lying to yourself. Accepting your situation is critical to making a financial comeback. There is no judgment in acceptance. There is no wrong. Because accepting your situation for what it is makes everything else you do EASY!
Are you wondering why I have you thinking about grieving when you are trying to get on track financially? I hope you are. The purpose is so you heal from the inside out. Just like surgery you repair the inside to have the outside repair. I go into detail in my financial recovery course and give you plenty of tools to do this for yourself.
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