The good news is that most of these couples are able to solve their marital problems, and go on to have a happy marriage again.
Here are three ways to do just that.
You don't have to win every argument.
Since marriages are a union of two people, arguments happen.
Two people, no matter how much they love each other, simply cannot agree all of the time.
If you are the spouse who has to win every argument, take a step back.
Some things can be let go.
Everyone has their own opinion of things and situations.
What you may see as 'right', your spouse may see as 'wrong'.
Sometimes there is no right or wrong, only a different way of thinking.
When you learn to see things through your spouses eyes, you will find that you are having less and less arguments.
The 'need' to win an argument will cease, because you know that you both can be right about different things.
When you are able to see this, then most of your arguments will be cut short, leaving most of the damaging words left unspoken.
Every successful relationship has limits.
Just as families set 'house rules' with their kids, there should be 'house rules' in your marriage.
There are things that are acceptable in marriages, and then there are things that are not.
Let me explain...
It is OK when the two of you may not agree, but can come up with a way to compromise.
It is NOT OK for you to have a disagreement, and then fight about it until one of you gives in.
All this will do is to make one spouse have power over the other, and results in an ongoing power struggle.
You are in a marriage, not a tug-of-war! the two of you are equals - you are in a partnership.
Partnerships never have one partner taking control over the other.
It never works.
It is also not acceptable for one spouse to abuse the other, either physically or mentally.
Abuse is abuse, and it is best that you get out of that situation as soon as possible.
You do NOT have to live that way! You are a good person, and you deserve better.
Even in an abusive relationship, however, the abuser can get help, and you can have a happy marriage again.
If the abuse is a result of an alcohol or drug addiction, your spouse can get help for that, too.
Once the addiction is gone, the abuse usually goes out the door with it.
The two of you have made a commitment to each other - keep it! Remember back to the day you got married.
The two of you vowed to spend the rest of your lives together.
You committed yourselves to each other, through thick and thin.
If you find that your marriage isn't what you want it to be, then it is up to you to find out why and to fix it.
When you want to know how to fix a broken marriage, it is best that you and your spouse work together.
If only you want to fix it, you can still save your marriage.
When you learn to see things through your spouse's eyes, and understand that you or your spouse can't always be right, you will soon see your marriage start to change for the better.
When you set 'ground rules' in your marriage, then lines won't be crossed.
You will both know the other's limits, and will work on not pushing those limits.
These steps will keep most arguments at bay, and will decrease the seriousness of the ones that occur.
Fixing a broken marriage isn't that hard to do, but you have to decide that you really want to.
If you go into it half-heartedly, you will get half-hearted results.