I know that, when I was a child, my parent's divorce was rough on me and I am still feeling the mental effects.
It is true that my parents were better off without being married to each other, but I know that I wasn't.
That is the simple truth.
I should also confess that I am a divorce lawyer.
Interesting, no? I grew up to help people with this difficult family law process.
Is it Freudian? Possibly.
I recall meeting with both of my parent's attorneys when I was a child.
I talked to the lawyer and the judges and I remember that it was difficult because I didn't know what was happening a lot of the time.
I am writing this article because I want my situation to serve as a first-person example of somebody who has been effected by a divorce.
I know that a divorce is hard on children because I lived through it.
Take it from me: divorcing parents must keep in mind that and their children must come first.
They shouldn't fight about who has custody of the children.
They shouldn't fight about money - be it child support, alimony, maintenance or otherwise.
If you can't be married any longer, that is fine, but don't take it out on the children.
It isn't fair and it isn't wise.
Get a divorce, be good to the kids and move on with the rest of your life.
The children will grow up and they will remember.
What is it you want them to remember? I realize that parents who are divorcing need aggressive divorce lawyer.
I understand that.
The courts and the legal system as a whole is set up to be litigated.
That model comes from history - all the way back to early Roman times.
This is an aspect of life and the law that cannot be avoided.
However, courts in modern times are moving away from litigation when it comes to the family.
Options such as mediation and alternative dispute resolution can be key.
So, take it from a divorce attorney who remembers his parent's divorce.
Do your best to ensure that the children are effected as little as possible.
Make sure that you think first about your children and not your self.
You can get a divorce, but if you do, make sure the children's best interests are protected first and foremost.